Dating your friends ex ok
" This is the status I was greeted with this week on the Facebook page of one of my dear girlfriends.
My knee-jerk response was "Duh, who wouldn't be pissed?
Whether your relationship ended by mutual agreement or feelings on your end that you see your significant other as more of a friend than a lover, the “I’d like us to still be friends” conversation often comes into play.
You do not want to completely ruin what you had just because a romantic relationship didn’t work out.
Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.
Her experiences in the dating world inspire her "Relationship Rant" column.
" Oddly enough, after viewing some of the discussion on the comment thread, I realized that my judgment might have been a little harsh.
I'm not trying to generalize, but most of my female friends talk about past boyfriends, dissecting why their relationships didn't work.
“If you are hanging on because of a desire to re-spark the relationship, you’re doing yourself a disservice,” Morrissey says.From "he just doesn't get me" to "we're too different" to "why did we stay together THAT long," women tend to overanalyze past relationships.However, the one thing that seems to be the unwritten rule among us is that we would never even consider dating our friends' exes. But now I realize this rule really needs more thought, because I believe there are two factors to consider before answering my girlfriend's Facebook question.And while many jumped to the conclusion that it was Jon who was the pal in question, the Essex hunk has now taken to Twitter to slam the claims. Writing to his 179k followers: "Just to clarify for everyone! Sharing his thoughts on Amber in the beach hut, Kem added: "Basically I do like Amber, she’s a nice girl, so I set up an Operation, I’ve got my best detectives in.
Ending a relationship on any terms can be painful, especially when you’ve invested time and emotional energy. So we often use the “friends” bit as something to fall back on, but this route can get a little messier than you might think.